Multipotentiality

Meaning someone with multiple potentials. Multi- talented. Interested in many things. Good at many things. May not be a specialist in one thing but multiple. Passionate about one thing to the exclusion of others for a while and then, bored, moves on to the next thing.

This is not a bad thing. Listening to Emilie Wapnick’s 2015 talk  on why some of us don’t have one true calling, I realised she was describing me perfectly. To a TEE. We are not anomalies to be prodded and nagged into focusing all our attention on ONE thing and sticking with it.

My background and interests are as varied as the fishes in the sea. In my career, I’ve been a Typist, Sales person, Store manager, Analyst, IT trainer, and Middle school teacher. Some of my interests have included: Running, Quilting, Painting/Art, Jewellery making, and Writing. When i’m interested in something, I pursue it. Then when I’m done, it’s over and I move on to the next thing. Writing is about the only constant thing since childhood. Although learning about something new excites me, I’ve never felt truly passionate about something enough to the exclusion of other things.

Now that would be boring and who wants a boring life?

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Africa is not a country and even if it was we’d still speak a thousand different languages.

Why is it when you mention that you’re African someone will invariably tell you they travelled to somewhere in Africa and then try to speak some words in the language to you even after you’ve told them the country you’re from and that you don’t speak whatever it is they’re trying to speak to you?

Take a deep breath girl. Whoosaiiii!

Case in point. I meet someone and we start to chat. Where are you from they say. I mention my country in West Africa.

Stranger: Oh i went to Tanzania once and lived there for a year.

Me: oh wow, awesome. How did you like it.

Stranger: blah blah blah I learnt a bit of Swahili (mumbles some words to me).

Me: *laughing* Oh no i don’t speak Swahili. That’s a language common in the Eastern, Southerly parts of Africa not in my country or West Africa.

Stranger: (a bit incredulously) oh really? I thought everyone in Africa spoke a little Swahili at least.

Me: Nope, not a word.

Guy then proceeds to try to say a few more words to test that I really did not speak it. This went on for some time and me now tiring of the entire conversation, tries to end it.

Me: Okay nice talking to you, gotta go now.

Stranger: Oh how do you say goodbye in Swahili I’ve forgotten.

Me: *coldly* I don’t speak Swahili.

Stranger: (completely ignoring my statement) oh yeah i think it’s *insert probably wrong Swahili word he thinks is goodbye*

Me: Sure i wouldn’t know but have a nice life *eye roll*

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Seeing Red

1 dayanger late

Sore and itchy.

Painful, uncomfortable

Bloated, irritated, tired, zombie

Hopeful.

2 days late

Long glances in the mirror

Eagle eyes eager to detect

Signs

Tummy patting, headaches

Checking

Cautious.

4 days late

Dry, parched, constipated

Cramps. Always cramps

Engorged, massive

Thinks of balloons

Stirrings of excitement.

5 days late

Whispering in bed

Late night discussions. Excitement.

We must get a test

What time are you going to the pharmacy dear?

7 days late

Early morning trickle

Nothing

Washes, gets dressed, coat on

He kisses me

Hope is like a welcomed guest that must not leave

Front door. Oops gotta visit the throne first

Sits down, wipes

Sees red

I can’t swallow. Raging, tears, deep breath

Opens door.Why are you here?

Enriched to be Generous

via Daily Prompt: Generous

“Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.
As it is written: “They have freely scattered their gifts to the poor; their righteousness endures forever.”
Now he who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will also supply and increase your store of seed and will enlarge the harvest of your righteousness.
You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.
This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of the Lord’s people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God.
Because of the service by which you have proved yourselves, others will praise God for the obedience that accompanies your confession of the gospel of Christ, and for your generosity in sharing with them and with everyone else.
And in their prayers for you their hearts will go out to you, because of the surpassing grace God has given you.
Thanks be to God for his indescribable gift!” – Paul’s 2nd letter to the Corinthians, Chapter 9, vs 7-15
Quotes

Patience; kindness; generosity; humility; courtesy; unselfishness; good-temper; guilelessness; sincerity–these make up the supreme gift, the stature of the perfect man. ~Henry Drummond

He, who gives what he would as readily throw away, gives withoutgenerosity; for the essence of generosity is in self-sacrifice. ~ Jeremy Taylor

Generosity is impossible apart from our love of God and of His people. But with such love, generosity not only is possible but inevitable. ~ John MacArthur

Generosity, wrong placed, becometh a vice; a princely mind will undo a private family. ~Thomas Fuller

You can always give without loving, but you can never love withoutgiving.  ~Amy Carmichael

Giving is true having. ~ Charles H. Spurgeon

The most obvious lesson in Christ’s teaching is that there is no happiness in having or getting anything, but only in giving.  ~ Henry Drummond

Lower Expectations…

I’ve been listening to a lot of Ted Talks lately. I like to listen to people talking about varying topics and getting perspectives from people from all over the world. Thted-talksat is the appeal of Ted Talks to me.

Yesterday I listened to Kemi Adegoke’s inspiring and educative talk on ‘The Culture of Low Expectation’ and her take away summary at the end resonated with me. She spoke about how a counsellor at secondary school had advised her to aim lower for a university placement instead of the top tier university she wanted attend. She was told top institutions were elitist, posh and that she would not fit in. They were not for people like her. She listened and took the advice only to find out later when meeting people who attend said university that they were not any posher, elitist or smarter than she was. Lesson learned.

I experienced an eerily similar situation after my junior certs. My Dad and I had a session with a counsellor in school who was supposed to help guide you in selecting your subjects for senior high based on what you intend to study at University and sit for at the senior leaving exams. I’d always wanted to be an architect and said this with confidence at the meeting. My counsellor proceeded to convince my Dad that my maths was too poor to shoot for such a major. I was encouraged to go for social sciences or art because those were easy enough for someone like me.

My Dad agreed and I left feeling so crushed and defeated. Suddenly I had to start thinking about what else i could study when all my life i’d wanted to design and help build beautiful spaces. I grudgingly decided on the social sciences and never had any sort of firm conviction about what I wanted to be again. I’d been convinced that my dreams were too hard for me to achieve instead of being encouraged to achieve them. I still suffer with self doubt till today and it takes a lot of mental work to go for things I want with the self belief that I can do it.

In summary:

-Understand motives: check motives behind every advice you are given. It may be well intentioned but still wrong for you.

-Make no assumptions: Never assume the worst about people, groups, organisations because your experience with them might be different to what everyone is telling you.

-Speak with your own voice: Create your own pathway, make and own your choices and it will make you more confident to speak with your own voice.

I’m learning my lessons.